Self love can be elusive. We all agree that loving all of ourselves (not in an ego way but in a deep soul way) is the path to a good life, but you might not be sure how to do go about it. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important one. You will be with you longer than anyone else on the planet so you better make it the best relationship you have. Begin by talking to yourself out loud with kindness and compassion. Consider this simple exercise. When things feel great and you have a moment of joy or contentment, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “You and I did this. We are a team and we created this happiness. Well done beautiful. I love you more than anything. ” It might feel weird at first but if you keep doing it many times a day for a few days, you will start to feel different and you will begin to understand what love that comes from within feels like. And the universe will send you more experiences of self-reliance and self-autonomy...

When we do the healing work, it is not easy to face the wound of our inner child, because shame is layered and sneaky. It is one of the more difficult emotions to work with. Other emotions are more straightforward. Sadness is sadness, you can identify it more easily. You have been sad before and have seen other people express their sadness. Same with anger. Although you might have judgments about feeling it, you recognize it as is anger, and most of the time, you know what to do to release it. Shame hides and covers up other emotions. When the original wound, for example, sadness or anger, is ignored and isn’t witnessed or validated by another loving person, or worst, if it was made fun of, ridiculed, or used for another person’s benefits, we learn that what we feel is not acceptable. We understand that being sensitive is not useful to survive, and it can actually be emotionally unsafe to be so.

 

Belonging, love, and safety are essential to the growth of a child....